Friday, August 15, 2025

A Ticking Clock

As I listen to the gentle ticking of your miniature Swiss cuckoo clock I realise that 8,760 hours have now passed without your physical presence mom. 

That’s 525,600 minutes without speaking to you. 

365 days without your daily messages pinging into my phone. 


52 weeks without a photo of your handwritten shopping list arriving in my WhatsApp ready for me to order your grocery delivery. 




12 months without your squeezy hugs that we loved so much each time we saw each other. 


Too many to count moments of thinking I must tell mom that… and then remembering I can’t. 


A year without you by my side on windy wet walks along a beach...


and constantly talking to the air around me and hoping you can hear.


But I am thankful for the 61 years of unconditional love you gave me. The 61 years of quiet guidance, encouragement and support. 61 years of precious memories spent with my strong mom to treasure. 


I now understand that learning to live my life with a momentous mom sized hole in it is going to take time. 





But in your physical absence you continue to influence my life. I have now catalogued and packed up all your Adult School Union papers and as promised they will be cared for in the Birmingham Library Archives and Collections just as you wished. 








I am working on an article we talked about when you shared your memories with me about your speedway and motorcycle antics with Dad… 





You would be thrilled to know mom, that Mr H and I are Planning a holiday to follow in you and your parents & cousins footsteps on a trip you did in 1954. 


And as I work my way through all the papers I have from your lifetime, I know many other stories will emerge. 


But most of all at the moment I am thankful for the many hours you and I spent poring over old photos recording all your memories on tape… 


So at the press of a button I am able to hear your voice once again. 




Saturday, October 19, 2024

Is that a Buttercup?

Mr H and I sit on a cold damp bench during a walk around the woods up the Lickey Hills. The autumn sun tries to break through the thin cloud above us, while amongst the many moulted bird feathers I spy something yellow a few metres from my feet.


Is that a buttercup
I ask Mr H?

He laughs.

Is it the top of a packet of peanut M&M’s then, I ask thoughtfully with a rumbling belly?

No



I get up and take the few steps needed to reach this yellow thing or two… Ah it’s tiny autumnal leaves I smile. They have fallen from the trees which I have just been hugging.





We are repeating a walk we did in January. There were three of us and a rollator then. Mr H, my precious mom and me. We were on a tree hugging pilgrimage with mom. The trees were almost bare of leaves then, but not of hugability.


Mom chose tree after tree for us to hug, can you feel the energy from this one she grinningly asked.

This one is really buzzing with energy, can you feel it?

Sort of mom we said as we pressed our cheeks closer to the bark.






Now nearly eight months later it is mom’s energy I hope to feel when I hug the same trees. 





In September we said a formal farewell to our precious mom, the person who has been at the core of my life since the day I was born. Mom spurred me on through self-doubt as a child; sat for hours with me late at night while I cried with worry about tomorrows’ spelling test at school; grinned with joy when I passed my first degree.

Mom never doubted my ability to become a nurse and let me fly away from home at the age of 17. I was unaware how hard that was going to be for her until the tears started to trickle down her cheeks when we ate Sunday lunch the day I was to leave. I was only going a few miles up the road I said, not really understanding how big an event this was for her. But I was home again the following Sunday, back at the dinner table before leaving again for my next week as a trainee nurse.

As we start a life without you mom, there will be no more daily calls to hear your voice as you tell me what was missing from the shopping delivery.

No more letters arriving on the mat containing coupons that you have collected for Mr H from your butter packs so we can stay for free at the organic farm which produces it.


No more poring over old photographs and documents with you, trying to piece some part of history together to our satisfaction.











No more giggling together as we ate another cream tea...


But you were the inspiration for me to write the book about your beloved Adult School, my encourager, my assistant researcher and fact finder. Completing that book in the knowledge that I had achieved exactly what you wanted was the best thing I have ever done in my life mom.




Wear bright colours no black, you told all three of us numerous times when we discussed your funeral in advance. So, like a rainbow, the room was full of purples, blues and pinks. You were at the core of the service we put together to celebrate your life mom.

I wrote you a letter which I read to you at the service. But I am sure you heard it every time Mr H had to suffer another practice run. And I know the strength to deliver it with both tears and laughter, came from you.

But I also realise you haven’t really left us mom. My heartbeat is your heartbeat. Every thought I have will be with you in mind. Everything I do will be because of you…



 

Wednesday, March 20, 2024

Crafty Chocolate

Nowadays I am not allowing the crafty creaminess of chocolate over the threshold of our doorstep. Anyone who rings the bell is searched before entry. 
When Mr H comes home, a rustling shopping bag in hand, I wobble out to the kitchen to catch him before he sneaks any shiny packages behind the tins of baked beans.
I inspect every naughty purchase he has made - all items I refuse to add to the online delivery. He has two packets of extra fruity hot cross buns, two big bags of crisps and 1kg of peanut butter. 
I hate peanut butter so that passes for entry to the larder. I can easily avoid eating hot cross buns. But I groan at the crisps because like chocolate, one nibble and I transform into a salivating, snack hunting, cupboard swarming, demon. Reluctantly I accept their entry into the very top shelf with a warning;
Do not give me one. Not one. Even if I beg! Do not bring a bag into the lounge. If you want some put them in a bowl and eat them before I realise they are gone.
He nods a reassuring promise. 
But Easter is drawing near. I can tip toe (I wish) past shops, do all my online shopping with a full tummy, tell everyone not to buy me anything chocolaty. 
But my naughty mind has a voice of its own;
Go on just one mini egg they are only 1 syn each…
Just a nibble of dairy milk will be fine…
You can buy a pack of mini Twix and ration them…
But my sensible mind knows I can’t. 
So on Monday when my Slimming World consultant, Beautiful, Bubbly, Bonny says she has an idea to help us avoid cracking under the Easter egg pressure I move to the edge of my seat. 
Out from under the table comes a basket full of polystyrene eggs. Take one and pass the basket round Bonny tells us. 
There is a pot of felt tip pens on the table and the plan is that we decorate our egg to look like Bonny giving us the evil eye… 

Sorry that’s not what Bonny actually said. With a Bonny grin she said … 
Use your decorated egg as a reminder to be careful at Easter should you be tempted to reach for chocolate or any other trigger foods. 
So this is my version of Bonny saying NO CHOCOLATE. Bonny now makes me and Mr H smile every time we walk into the kitchen. And interestingly it is working as a deterrent…



Disclaimer: apologies to Bonny for my complete lack of artistic expression… 

Saturday, August 5, 2023

Exercising my Brain

It has been an extraordinary amount of time since I last wrote a blog.

As you know I published my social history book The Last Class in November 2021, well, it also kept me busy in 2022.

With help from my beloved Mr H, I spent a lot of time honouring the requests of the Midland Adult School. This was to send a copy to every public library in Birmingham, plus every current and past member who we had details for and of course copies for people who requested to purchase one. They are still trickling out of my hands; I am now on my last 18 out of an original 300 copies. Other copies have sold on Amazon and through the publisher Brewin Books.

It is not a best seller by any means but that was never the intention. My pride emanates from the fact that I have recorded, forever, the story of a Philanthropic Organisation which had a significant part in bringing education to the working class of Britain. I recorded the personal memories of some of its members and along the way achieved something that I know makes my late Great Grandad Tom very happy.

I organised a launch of the book for the Rubery Class at my mom’s house. The look of surprise on their faces when they walked into the room where I had the books laid out in true ‘book launch’ style lit up my heart and settled in my everlasting memory. Alan, one of the members took a step back from the table and when I asked him why he said “I had absolutely no idea it would be so professional, a real book.” I asked each member to sign a  copy of the book which will be treasured record of them all.


Each member posed clutching their copies which we caught on camera before sitting with a cup of tea and blue and white Adult School coloured cup cakes which I had made for the occasion. The chatter in mom’s lounge was reminiscent of my first attendance at one of their meetings in 2016.  

I was also invited to do a talk to the Lickey Hills Local History Society. The room was packed with friendly faces, a few familiar, many not. The last public talk I gave was in 2011 at a Brain Tumour conference so I had to try and control my jangling nerves. But after the first five minutes with my notes in hand I got into my professional swing.

A friend subsequently came across a review of my talk in The Village Magazine. The article started with…

 “The guest speaker at the Lickey Hills Society had the packed Trinity Centre enthralled writes Keith Woolford. Dawn Hamill, who gave a talk on The Story of the Midland Adult School, was part of a family that took advantage of, and ultimately benefited from the scheme.” A tingle of elation ran through my body as I read it…

Now that life has resumed and some kind or normality post Covid lockdowns exists, I need a plan. So, even though my mobility took a big hit, and my new - post Covid - normal now includes two walking sticks instead of one, a rollator called Canardly and a Zimmer frame, I shall get back to regularly exercising my brain at the lap top. 

I may even set up a new Blog because Blogger have made their blog site even harder to negotiate or maybe its my older brain getting weary... 

Friday, November 26, 2021

Words on the Wind

On a week away this summer a rotund man says

 It must be a real pain just sitting there taking in the sunshine, as he passes while waving his arms around to take in the sunny blue sky, sea beyond and screeching seagulls.

My stomach rumbles. 

I mull over how long I should leave it before I mention my hunger to Mr H, knowing he will offer to fetch me something as I laze in my deckchair, smelling of sun cream covered skin. Maybe an avocado bagel from the kiosk I think...

I wonder how much they cost a day

£11 I call out as the two ladies pass. They stop, turn their heads and smile a thank you.

Hello you are through to British Gas if you have a boiler breakdown press 1... fades with the phone owners footsteps crunching on the pebbled beach in front of us.

It was grey on Tuesday but we still went for a swim a mature lady giggles as she and her companion walk, engrossed in their friendly chitter chatter, oblivious to my pen scratching across the page of my notebook.

Almost everyone peers inside as they pass. Unembarrassed curiosity disappointed when all they see are two chairs occupied by Mr H and me, our rucksack, knitting, books and shoes abandoned on the floor. They are hoping to see a quintessential beach hut. Pastel blue and white interior with shells dangling from string, a kettle whistling on a camping stove, empty cups awaiting the hot water while pretty, tied back curtains flutter in the breeze.


Sand in my shoes a small child moans, nestled in his Dad's arms as they wander towards the bucket and spade shop...

Nosey dogs of all shapes, colours and sizes are eager to investigate the inside of our hut before being yanked away by their lead, held by an absent minded owner. 




A people conscious, bucket and spade laden grandma walks ahead of her dawdling grandson calling out we are holding everyone up here. And when they stand aside, like a queue at temporary traffic lights, the trailing hoards rapidly filter past. 

As the sea recedes it exposes a moss covered rocky prominence which I am itching to explore but when I mention it to Mr H he rolls his eyes saying it will be too slippy for you and I don't fancy fishing you out of the water with a broken ankle. I know he is right so I am content to watch as adults and children clamber all over it, standing and staring.  And instead I imagine they are looking into pools full of sea anemones, limpets stuck to the rock like glue and crawling, creeping crabs.



A young girl's words to her boyfriend are carried to us on the breeze, take a photo but wait until I get further away from you I will look slimmer then. I grin knowing that is something I am likely to say to Mr H. 

As the sun dips down towards the water and the air cools, dehydrated children trail behind their equipment laden parents, their eyes watering as they suck rapidly on straws sunken into cold cups of drink, looking anywhere but where they are heading.

Shall we have a walk into town Mr H suggests as he starts to gather our belongings at the end of this beautiful Mindful day...



Tuesday, November 16, 2021

The Last Load

I hear the rumble of lorry wheels. They are here I shout to Mr H.

We step outside into the cold darkness.

It’s Wednesday evening on the 10th of November. We have waited all day. I have been like a jack in the box every time a vehicle drove up our road. I am shattered. I have done more sit to stand exercises in the last 11 hours than all week.

My physio will be pleased.

Outside the huge lorry slowly chugs towards us as I wave frantically hoping he can see me in my navy clothes as they merge with the dark damp air.

The lorry driver gets out. Walks around the back of his monster of a lorry and raises the hatch. He disappears into the dark echoing vault. He eventually emerges with a pallet wrapped in plastic and makes the slow mechanised descent to the ground.

He wheels the load over to us as we stand in the road saying thank you, thank you, thank you, with beaming smiles.

The driver meanwhile says absolutely nothing! He takes a photograph of us standing by the pallet and we say thank you again to his back as he walks towards the lorry, gets inside and drives off.

There is no fanfare. Just the two of us shivering.

Let’s get a knife Mr H says…

He tears the plastic off and carries box after box into the back room.

I rip one open and stand motionless. Staring down at the result of five years work.



I stroke a cover. Lift one free of the box. It is heavy, heavier than I had expected. And shiny. And big.

It is full of my words. Photographs I have collected and painstakingly chosen to include. Stories and memories of many ladies and gents who were once members of Adult School Classes within the Midlands.

My first book has been published.

Thirteen years to the week after my life changed because of a brain tumour, I have become a published author of a book on Social History and the History of Education within the Midland Adult School Union.

I am totally utterly silent. Overwhelmed as tingles run down my arms and spine. I would never have believed it was possible.

The Last Class. The Story of the Midland Adult School Union 1845-2020. Written by Dawn Hamill.

I have spent the last five years plodding through archives, reading old books and interviewing past and present members of this remarkable Movement. I have discovered that my own family history was woven into the world of The Adult School. I have shared some truths about my own journey through life up to and after the brain tumour. A tumour that changed my world. But gave me the time to change my path in life.

The Rich Tapestry of Life never ceases to amaze and thrill me.

The book is available from Brewin Books Ltd. Also Amazon. It can be ordered from WH Smiths. If you have a query, please feel free to email me differencedawns@gmail.com

 

Tuesday, October 19, 2021

Dimwits Don't Wear Masks

Yesterday over 49,000 people tested positive for Covid infection.

Within the last week an average of 124 people died as a result of Covid each day in the UK.

That’s two double decker buses full of seated people. Friends, wives, husbands, grandparents, mothers, fathers and the occasional child.

Every day.

If a double decker bus ran off the road and into a ditch killing all its occupants there would be outrage. An enquiry into what happened.

Two on the same day. Well, that’s hard to imagine. Almost as bad as everyone dying on a crashed airplane. Well four a week actually if the weekly figures are compared with a Boeing 747.

BUT

The UK Government website displays the numbers vaccinated first thereby placing emphasis on this rather than the many thousands actually affected by the virus on a daily basis. Yes, vaccination appears to be saving lives, reducing the severity of illness in most of those vaccinated but coronavirus is still there. Still killing people in airplane loads.

At the start of Lockdown 1 I was part of a group of friends who started zooming each Sunday, initially to support our dear friend John who was completely socially isolated as a result. As my Blog readers will know John sadly died but not of Covid. However, we have carried on zooming most weeks as we reach out to each other, voices of reason, debating the news headlines, deciding which masks are the best to wear on an airplane and in shops…

As a group – all retired - we fit into the brigade of vaccinated, eagerly awaiting boosters, mask compliant, sanitising, handwashing, still social distancing where we can and avoiding places/situations where we can’t.

Yet it feels as though there are not many of us left.

At the weekend Mr H and I stopped at a service station on the M5 to use the loo and it was buzzing with crowds of non-mask wearing people pushing past me as I headed, slowly, towards the sign for the Toilets. Mr H as usual was by my side to block those non mask wearing pushers who were in too much of a hurry to give a wobbly me the space I needed.

You wouldn’t think we were in the midst of a pandemic at all would you I said to Mr H as we walked. I was feeling so angry I checked the UK Gov Guidance which states: When You Should Wear a Face Covering: We expect and recommend that members of the public continue to wear face coverings in crowded and enclosed places (sounds like a service station to me…) where you come into contact with people you don’t meet. For example, on public transport…

This brings me to Dimwits and back to my zooming friends. In particular our zoom master, the organiser of our weekly chats Jeff Smith. He has kept us entertained with his lengthy emails, summarising and commenting on the day’s news headlines. He has just returned from a holiday in Mallorca and this was our zoom sponsors take on what he witnessed…

There are just so many cases nowadays in the UK, very nearly 45,000 yesterday… at an average rate of 387 per every 100,000 over the last seven days. 

According to Reuters this morning, in Spain over the last seven days, the average is currently at 4% of its peak… that is an average of 1,538 cases per day, just 22 cases per 100,000. A significant difference.

 Our country isn't using avoidance of infection as one of its tools to tackle it, it appears we are relying on the vaccine alone.

 Elsewhere in Europe, even though 'things' are increasingly allowed, going shopping, meeting up, dining out; mask wearing indoors remains mandatory. In smaller shops and cafes, the numbers allowed indoors are restricted, and some social distancing is still in place. All hospitality staff engaging with customers wear masks.

 In a hotel we stayed in for our last night, our temperatures were taken at check in. The breakfast was held on the covered (but open both ends) roof terrace (yes it's warmer on the med) and everyone still had to wear a mask. The tables were well spaced and you had to wear plastic gloves for collecting food from the buffet. 

 They haven't forgotten, they aren't ignoring it. Despite starting after the UK, they're as vaccinated now and often more vaccinated - in percentage of population - than we are. But they recognise that reducing infection is key to success.

 Double vaccines alone do not prevent infection from the delta variant, it reduces the severity, but unfortunately, it doesn't guarantee it won't kill you. Above the age of 65, maybe even 60, there are deaths amongst the double vaccinated and the ratios and numbers increase with age.

 We all have to be careful.

 In the airport at Mallorca, we saw signs (in multiple languages) instructing everyone to 'respect respiratory etiquette'.  

 An excellent message. Or as I might say 'wear your bloody mask. And wear it correctly, you dimwit'!

 Here it feels as though the government message is that we are reverting to 'herd immunity' through spreading of infection. It appears as though they're not interested with how many folk get ill or infect others (even deaths), just as long as the NHS doesn't get overrun. 

 I don't understand it, I don't agree with it, but most of the UK’s population (from the evidence I see) seem not to be bothered at all.

 

This is the personal view of an intelligent member of the public who has witnessed first-hand the different approaches in the UK and Europe. It is clear that a large percentage of the UK population don’t want to protect their fellow man.

 I feel that reintroducing mandatory face coverings and social distancing in England (if only to give a visible sense to all that we are still in the middle of a Pandemic) as in other parts of Europe could have a significant impact on the numbers of airplanes, we are filling with deaths from Covid infection in the UK.

 And as the dark nights draw in and winter takes hold, the population of people who have not been exposed to the usual colds, flus and respiratory infections because of lockdowns are now moving around as though these infections also don’t exist.

 As someone with underlying health conditions and a trashed immune system I am worried. I am vaccinated, wear a mask, maintain social distancing but despite this am fearful that tomorrow or the next day I could start coughing and end up as another statistic on one of those buses or airplanes…